Category Archives: Minorities

Vulva Power

Vulva Power

I cannot express how relieving it is, just to see a vagina in its natural state. As someone who deals with their own on a daily basis, but also worries about my nieces’ vaginas, friends’ vaginas, and even complete strangers’ vaginas, I can lose the forest for the trees. It becomes detached from reality, transforming into a symbol, rather than the very real thing that it is: a vulva. Thankfully, The Reticulated Writer brought us Vag, and lots of it.

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Man-Boy Communal Life

That title scares me, too–don’t worry, you’re not alone! But it’s not about anything even remotely related to what I have ambiguously titled for trolling effect. No friends, I am in no way suggesting any endorsement of the bane of my existence (paedophilia), but rather, bringing a much needed clarion call to the occurrence of communal living amongst the quickly ageing Gen-Xers as brought to the fore in this article on the NY Times, A Confederacy of Bachelors. Or whatever other generation is now entering its late thirties early forties. (Who are we, anyway? Deep question, eh?)

Never having gone to boarding school or long-term summer camp, I always wanted to live in a commune or some other sort of friend-house-dorm place. In a way I guess I’m kinda like one of the Confederate Bachelor guys, just… not a guy. Much to my chagrin, I don’t know any other women who are even considering this sort of lifestyle as a possibility, which could be because we women as a species have a kind of foresight regarding how the lifestyle could possibly not end well. Or it’s because we’re baby-crazy breeders who need their own individual nests! No nest sharing! (Just kidding. We can share nests. (No, actually, we can’t. This is MY nest. Go get your own.))

So the article made me wonder how many others are interested in this sort of lifestyle while being romantically involved with someone on a long-term basis. Luckily enough, I’ve collected a few emailed links regarding this phenomenon, emails which I’ve sent to my hubby on days that he doesn’t put ANYTHING away–dirty socks, half-eaten food, a gallon of milk, dirty dishes, whatever–to kind of hint that maybe, just maybe, we’d be better off loving each other while living in separate spaces.

While no one talks about being ok living with other people simultaneous to being married (unless Peace Corps and Teach for America counts), they do talk about “married living separately” “commuter marriages” and ‘loving and living alone‘. Would that I could finally drill this point home! But alas, I’m bound to a traditionalist from Eastern Europe; I don’t think it’ll be that easy to get my way with this one.

No matter what you call it, I think that it’ll catch on with the mainstream eventually. At least I hope it will. It’s my heart’s aim!

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"Come On, People"

– lifted from Bill Cosby’s book of the same name –

A quick visit to Youtube (August 2012) will show some unpleasant and both surprising and unsurprising statistics. When searching the personal video upload site, the search term “black fight” will render you 229,000 assorted videos, whereas its corollary “white fight” will garner you a proportionally inappropriate 137,000 (surely we all understand why I say “proportionally inappropriate”, but if you don’t, please feel free to message me and I may digress).

I was compelled to look this up after noticing an oddly tipped number of such should-be embarrassing videos on The Smoking Gun some time ago, but am just recently getting around to doing the footwork on Youtube searches (where number counts have changed drastically from 2011 to 2012 by the way). Unfortunately, despite the time lapse between last year and this, little has hindered us colored folk in the perpetuation of such inappropriate and degrading stereotypes, but little has hindered others for reveling and cajoling around the mire we are being sucked down in.

A few more examples from Youtube to demonstrate America’s “black” fixation:

  • black people fight: 81,500
  • white people fight: 52,500
  • nigger fight: 49,500
  • trailer trash fight: 34,600

Related search terms also of interest:

  • nigga fight: 47,700
  • redneck fight: 4,230

The MOST interesting search find:

  • Black people: 9,500,000
  • White people: 884,000

That last number shows that we’re high on the list as ‘persons of interest’–the only problem I have is the reason behind why we’re so high up on the list. I don’t think it’s a good one. And mind you, I originally searched this info out BEFORE Trayvon Martin and the numbers were even more astutely skewed, so I find this continued trend concerning.

More to come on the next Race post where I contrast Earl Ofari Hutchinson’s “Come On, People” position and the commentaries on several Smoking Gun entries (and my god are the comments people post terrible).

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